{"id":16710,"date":"2014-11-13T16:10:59","date_gmt":"2014-11-13T16:10:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.theweddingsecret.co.uk\/magazine\/?p=16710"},"modified":"2017-04-06T22:23:44","modified_gmt":"2017-04-06T22:23:44","slug":"handfasting-and-pagan-weddings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theweddingsecret.co.uk\/magazine\/handfasting-and-pagan-weddings\/","title":{"rendered":"Handfasting and Pagan Wedding Ceremonies | An Alternative-Religious Wedding!"},"content":{"rendered":"

For those who feel closer to nature, a Pagan wedding may be the thing for you.<\/h3>\n

Here at TWS, we understand that not everyone opts for the traditional church wedding, and so we like to explore all the other opportunities that are available to brides and grooms.<\/p>\n

For the past couple of weeks, we\u2019ve been looking at Pagan weddings, finding out about this age-old religion and how it\u2019s growing ever more popular.<\/p>\n

\"Handfasting<\/a><\/p>\n

We\u2019ve also been chatting to Jacqui and Emma over at Pagan Wedding Planners<\/strong><\/a> in the beautiful town of Glastonbury. Between them they have 60 years of experience working both magically and ceremonially, priding themselves on giving their clients confidence in their company, and in their ability as Priestesses \u2013 look out for Jacqui\u2019s comments along the way!<\/p>\n

So, I hear you ask, what is a Pagan wedding ceremony? Why would I want one? And how do I go about throwing a Pagan, hand-fasting wedding ceremony?<\/p>\n

What is Paganism?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Modern Paganism is derived from the ancient and worldwide polytheistic belief of Paganism, where a number of deities were worshipped through sacrifice, meditations and spiritual offerings. Paganism pre-dates many of our modern day religions, and throughout history, those practicing it have been accused of performing black magic – but this is incorrect of course.<\/p>\n

Neo-paganism \u2013 modern day paganism \u2013 takes a much gentler view, although beliefs and practices vary wildly amongst different groups, there is a common belief that stems throughout each, mainly that a polytheistic approach to religion is beneficial, allowing for wider diversity, freedom and tolerance of worship.<\/p>\n

\"Handfasting\"<\/a><\/p>\n

A Pagan wedding ceremony is called a \u2018handfasting\u2019, and is a vow to love, honour and respect your partner. Unlike other religious ceremonies, there are many ways of holding a handfasting, as emphasis is on meeting the considered needs of each couple rather than repeating a standard process. Many couples choose to handfast for the traditional \u2018year-and-a-day\u2019, renewing their vows every year, others vow to handfast until their love ends, and others for eternity.<\/p>\n

TWS (The Wedding Secret): Are you seeing a rise in pagan weddings? And if so, why do you think this is?<\/strong><\/p>\n

PWP (Pagan Wedding Planners): “There is most definitely a rise in Pagan weddings. This could be because people who aren\u2019t Christians, don\u2019t think a church wedding could, or would, reflect who they truly are, and would feel it hypocritical to have a white wedding simply because it is \u2018traditional\u2019.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Another reason could be, that to have a full church wedding, or a civil ceremony, would end up bring VERY expensive, whereas a handfasting can be a fraction of the price.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Our couples will often have a civil ceremony to make it legal, but just as many forgo that too, seeing the spiritual joining as far more important.\u00a0<\/strong>Handfastings can be deeply moving, extremely romantic and far more \u2018real\u2019 to our couples than the more usual forms of marriage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Many of our clients\u2019 friends and families are blown away by how beautiful the ceremonies are.\u201d<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The Ceremony<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Traditionally couples hold two handfasting ceremonies, the first lasting for a year and a day, and the second lasting for life if the couple are still dedicated and devoted to each other.<\/p>\n

A handfasting is the binding of hands, to create a sacred bond. The cords used are traditionally coloured to the wedding couple\u2019s choice, each colour symbolizing something different; for instance red<\/strong> \u2013 for will, strength, courage and fertility, orange<\/strong> \u2013 for encouragement, attraction and kindness, and blue<\/strong> \u2013 for patience, understanding, health and loyalty.<\/p>\n

The second notable event within a Pagan wedding ceremony is the jumping of the besom broom<\/strong>. This action represents the sexual union between the now married couple, and also the threshold they are about to cross, being husband and wife. This tradition dates back to Africa, before slavery was abolished. At this point, legal and religious marriages were not viewed appropriate for slaves, and so this small ritual was created to distinguish between a casual relationship, and those settling down in to marriage. This action of jumping together over a broom was, and still is used in African American marriages today.<\/p>\n

\"Jumping<\/a><\/p>\n

TWS: Is it possible to incorporate elements of a pagan wedding \u2013 handfasting, for instance \u2013 in to a non-religious wedding, eg humanist wedding? This is for couples who find an affinity in paganism, but don’t\u00a0<\/strong>belong to the religion.<\/strong><\/p>\n

PWP: \u201cAbsolutely! Not all our couples are Pagan, but they still want a handfasting, and we will tailor the ceremony to fit their needs. We offer a commitment ceremony for those who do not want too much Pagan imagery involved \u2013 this still has the tying of hands and the jumping over the besom broom, for instance.<\/strong><\/p>\n

At all times we remember that we are facilitating what the couple wants, not pushing our own beliefs forward. All we want to see from our couples is a love for each other, and a willingness to commit on a spiritual level with a love of the natural world around them.\u201d<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

It\u2019s About You!<\/strong><\/h3>\n

A High Priest or Priestess conducts the ceremony, with a chance for the couple to make their own vows in the middle. As Jacqui said, you are able to make the ceremony fit around you and your partner\u2019s beliefs. So whether you\u2019re from a Pagan background, and want the whole works, or whether you just feel akin to nature, and want to celebrate spirituality with your partner, then this might be the ceremony for you.<\/p>\n

The handfasting is then followed by a wedding reception, full of evening entertainment, food, family, friends and celebration.<\/p>\n

TWS: Is there anything else you think would be important for me to mention about Pagan weddings?<\/strong><\/p>\n

PWP: \u201cYes, they\u2019re not legally binding. (So make sure you get a spot in a registry office to get the legal bit out of the way!)<\/em> Also, we have no issue with gender, sexuality etc \u2013 if two people love each other, then so be it!\u201d<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\"Happy<\/a><\/h3>\n

Some ideas for those personal touches:<\/strong><\/p>\n